Be Gentle

“Don’t hit your sister on the head” and “Don’t sit on her neck” are sentences I never thought I would say. I also never thought that such directions would be analyzed by a highly paid team of lawyers and analysts to find all the possible loop holes. So…Hitting on the arms OK? Sitting on her tummy so she can’t get up is fine? Pulling hair is acceptable?

So I changed my tack and I now give clearer directions of the kind of behavior I expect, without using the word “don’t.”

“Be gentle”

“Be nice”




could me “Skip across the road” or “Jump across the road” When parenting my children I try to use positive words or clear directions.