As a dad who has to work I miss out on a lot of the running and jumping play time during the day. I often only get to see my kids at the end of the day when they are tired and when there is only enough time to have dinner and then get them ready for bed.
It is a tricky balance to work to provide for a family and to also be present to raise them. I also think it is strange that I pay Day-care centre staff to raise my boy without really knowing them or what they are actually teaching him. I am sure he has already seen and learnt things that I have had no input into. The lyrics from “Cat’s in the cradle” jumped into my head:
“And the cat’s in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin’ home, Dad
I don’t know when, but we’ll get together then
You know we’ll have a good time then”
I know little people are like little parrots. They learn by copying. I keep on thinking I need to be a good example and role model to my kids. It is just hard to be a good example when I am not home when they are awake.
Well tonight you will be glad to know that I sat down with my boy and we read some books together. It wasn’t the kind of running around outside awesome fun time I would love to share with him but it was still nice to have him sit on my lap and for us to have a giggle.
It is very cute to hear my son laugh and then say in his little high pitched voice “You’re funny.” It is the latest phrase and concept he has learnt, which made me consider what else he has picked up.
One of his first words was “More” which is useful when used in the context of food or drink. He also understood “bed” and “sleep” at an early age so that he could protest against the ideas.
Every night as we put him to bed we give him a kiss and tell him that we love him. Now he blows kisses to his baby sister which I think is a good sign that he understands the concept.
Some of my other favourites are animal sounds. He can do a beautiful meow and a loud roar. He loves “Trucks” and “Diggers” and he calls out their names from the back seat of our car when ever we pass them by.
I also love that he knows the names of his family and friends and gets excited when they visit or call on the phone. “Nanna!”
I can’t wait to see what is next!
There is so much more to life than the ABCs…like learning to type one handed while cuddling your new born baby to sleep!
Like understanding when your toddler is crying, rubbing his head, pointing at the table, saying “dare”, what he really means is “I want you to understand that I just hit my head on the table over there and it really hurt. Can you please give me a cuddle until I calm down?”
Give your kids big squeezy cuddles.
Oh…and tell them that you love them!